Help us spread the message that bullying is so not ok!
Every girl hopes bullying won’t happen to her or to someone she knows and cares about. But bullying does happen to some people and lots of others will see it happening around them. Even if you have never been bullied yourself, you may be worried about the effects of bullying on your friends. We would like to encourage girls to take a stand against bullying. Make a positive change and let those affected by bullying know that you’re there for them.
Download 'Bullying So Not Ok. A Girls' Education and Prevention booklet.'
A Supré Foundation and headspace initiative written by the Telethon Kids InstituteDownload (PDF, 7.5 MB)
Advice for girls
When the bullying is happening and you feel you can’t do anything to stop it, follow these steps:
- Stay calm and try not to get upset or angry. This is probably what the person bullying wants you to do.
- Don’t fight back. If you fight back you can make the situation worse, get hurt, or be blamed for starting the trouble.
- Try to ignore the bullying by calmly turning and walking away.
- If the person bullying tries to stop or block you, be firm and clear – look them in the eye and tell them to stop.
- Get away from the situation as quickly as possible.
- Tell a trusted adult what has happened straight away
Girls suggested you could follow these steps to discourage a friend from bullying:
- Tell the friend what they are doing is bullying.
- Talk to your friend and see if there is something bothering them.
- Let them know they don’t need to do this to the person.
- Suggest you go and do something else together.
For example: "Hey, you are bullying. You don’t need to do that. Why don’t you just leave them alone and hang out with me and do something else."
Many young people need support during this time.
If you are not coping with these emotions or moods, and feel they are really getting to you, please ask for help from a trusted adult or from a group like headspace.
- Start with yourself. Make a commitment not to support bullying in any way. Do not harass, tease, or spread negative gossip about others. Respect others, value differences, and try to broaden your social circle to include others who are different from you.
- Choose your friends wisely. Make it clear to your friends that you will not put up with bullying. Refuse to spend time with people who continue to be mean to others.
- Share the responsibility. Everyone has a responsibility to help stop bullying. Spread the word that bullying isn’t okay.
- Learn to recognise bullying. Bullying comes in many different forms – all equally painful and wrong. Whether it’s hitting or pushing; teasing or name calling; ignoring or spreading nasty rumours, we don’t put up with bullying in our school or community. It makes everyone feel bad.
- Keep track of ‘hot spots’. Work with friends to take note of places where bullying occurs. We call these ‘hot spots’. Pass this information on to a trusted adult.
- Speak up. Make it known to your peer group that you and your friends don’t like bullying. When someone is bullying someone else, speak up and tell them bullying is wrong. If it doesn’t feel safe, get help.
- Walk away. If you don’t feel you can speak up, walk away and show that you don’t support the bullying and then go to get help. By standing and watching bullying, you’re encouraging it.
- Help the person being bullied. Make an effort to get to know a person who is picked on, left out or might be at risk of being bullied because they are alone. If they seem sad or worried tell them there is help. Support them to speak with a parent, teacher or another trusted adult.
- Students who bully need help too. Be firm that bullying is wrong but don’t be mean to the person bullying. Remember – two wrongs don’t make a right and often people who bully have other problems.
- Be a leader. Take steps to stop bullying in your school. Talk to your teacher or principal and ask for help in setting up a ‘Say No to Bullying’ or ‘Student Support’ campaign.
As you read through this booklet, remember, there is one message that was loud and clear from young people:
“We don’t like bullying, we don’t want it in our schools and we want to stop it from happening to others. When bullying is happening to our peers or friends, we usually know it is going on. If you know, go and tell someone. You can do it privately so no one knows if you are worried, because by telling an adult you could be saving someone from much pain, fear and humiliation. We all agree that bullying is so not ok, and we have the power and responsibility to do something about it”.