Set realistic expectations and celebrate small wins

When I started in my first full-time role, I was prone to sometimes thinking that I had to be as knowledgeable and skilled as my colleagues. I think it’s important to have high expectations of yourself and have the drive to want to do well, but I find it can be unhelpful to hold myself to unrealistic standards because attempting to reach these standards and ‘failing’, can result in burn-out and a negative view of yourself.  

To challenge any unhelpful expectations, I find it important to first become aware of them and reflect on whether they are helpful. If they aren’t helpful I come up with ways to challenge or reframe my expectations. For me, acknowledging that I was a beginner and that I had a supportive space to grow and learn made the first few days and weeks in a new role easier. 

I also find it helpful to celebrate the small wins when you start a new job! Rather than just focusing on what needs improvement, acknowledging my achievements help me stay motivated and feel more settled. This is where I find asking for feedback from your supervisor or even recording any positive comments can be so valuable.   

Don’t forget to take…

A break! Your first day can be a stressful time, so it’s important to find a moment during the day to breathe.

- Peter, headspace staff member

Plan for your first day and ask lots of questions

One of the toughest things when heading out on my first day(s) was the uncertainty! I wasn’t too sure what it would be like – whether I could heat up food, whether I would get there in time… the list goes on. If you feel like you’re in the same boat, these two things help me:

1. Asking questions - I always like to ask my manager before starting to clarify the questions on my mind - what I need to bring, what facilities are available to use and other important things like what to wear. If you’re lucky you might be able to head into your workplace for a tour or an in-person meeting before your actual first day!

2. Creating a plan – How will I get there? When do I need to leave home to get there on time or even 15 minutes early? I also like to have a lunch box with my meals prepped or get my outfit out the night before to make sure I’m ready to go.

Remember to plan something to unwind when you get home too!

Don’t forget to take…

Lunch, snacks, and a water bottle! Keeping hydrated and fuelled across your first day is super important and sets you up to put your best foot forward.

- Jasmine, former headspace National Youth Reference Group Member

Remember, work is only a part of who we are

Starting a new job can take up a lot of energy, and if you're like me you might even be thinking about work when you’re not even at work, particularly in the first few weeks of starting. I find that by reminding myself that work is only a part of who I am and that I have a life outside of work really helps me to keep things in perspective. Booking in social events in advance like seeing my family for dinner, watching my friend’s soccer game, going to the gym, or cooking a yummy meal help me to stay balanced and maintain strong boundaries. This helps me to feel more excited about the new job and ready to learn.

Don’t forget to take…

Your calendar/diary! This way you avoid overcommitting yourself by saying 'yes' to everything in the moment and ensuring you're still making time for the other things in life.

- Grace, former headspace National Youth Reference Group Member

The end of day one 

On your first day, your manager will likely let you know when it’s time to finish, however it creates a good impression if you’re available to help right up until leaving time, and not be in a hurry to leave.  
  

And finally...

 As a general rule for your first day, try not to stiffen up or be fearful. You might find that you're frowning or not smiling because you are nervous or feel intimidated. Don't worry, you'll meet lots of new and welcoming faces, and most people will recognise that you are a newcomer and be helpful.  
When you start a new job, most people are understanding that mistakes happen, and honest misunderstandings are acceptable. If you make a mistake, be up-front and take responsibility, your honesty will be seen as a valued trait. It's also a good idea not to make personal phone calls or disappear for a long lunch break. You're subtly being looked at and evaluated, particularly during your first few days. 
 
Having said all of the above, try to enjoy your first day! Whilst it can feel scary, intimidating or nerve-wracking, it can also be exciting, interesting, and even fun! New experiences like these can help shape who we are and help us build new relationships and connections. Before you know it, you will no longer be the newcomer, but a valued member of the team.